The sign of a person's maturity is not necessarily his age. Many people are still childlike at an early age, while others are mature and capable at a young age. What does a person's psychological maturity look like?

1. I feel that time is becoming more and more precious, and the frequency of chatting with people is getting less and less. This is not because I talk less, but because I really feel that talking less can avoid many problems.

2. I don’t care about having a lot of friends, and gradually I feel that many social interactions are meaningless. If you understand that only if your own abilities are high, people will naturally be willing to get close to you.

3. Take offense and impoliteness from others lightly.

4. I am more willing to spend time with my family instead of always spending time talking nonsense with colleagues and friends. I understand that the older my parents get, the more they crave to be needed.

5. Only care about the people you are willing to care about, rather than blindly cater to others. In fact, what everyone really cares about is themselves.

6. Many things encountered in life can actually be solved with money, and many problems are caused by being too idle.

7. Don’t be in a hurry to find a partner, let alone get married. Be yourself before becoming someone else's.

9. In the past, chicken soup for the soul would be inspiring when I saw it, but gradually I became numb to these things. Understand that not all efforts will necessarily have good results, and not all good attitudes can bear everything.

10. Don’t envy other people’s lives. Understand that you should do your part, no matter how trivial it is, and keep yourself happy.

The following are some personal opinions, which are just suggestions:

1. Kind and kind, giving people a gentle feeling As comfortable as jade;

2. Know how to control your emotions and not show them;

3. Know how to help It's your duty not to help you, so don't complain;

4. Enjoy solitude, be calm, don't pursue bells and whistles, and return to nature;

5. Life is simplified. The older you grow, the fewer true friends you have. I also long to make true friends, and I am glad to make true friends;

6. An impatient person slowly polishes his character and becomes calm. This item should be included in the second item, but it is very important and is listed separately;

7. Don’t be surprised by favors or disgrace. You will feel that all bad things will pass, and there will be no obstacles that cannot be overcome. Life is like this, and it will make you feel uncomfortable occasionally;

8. Will refuse to do things you don’t want to do. It is no longer a central air conditioner. It is important to learn to refuse. It may be embarrassing the first time, but you will get used to it if you refuse a few times. It is very practical; < /p>

9. You have passed the stage of needing others’ approval to feel confident.

Personal opinion

I think the psychological sign that a person is mature or better understood as sensible should be the emotional self and The ability to heal quickly

To expand, the first is the ability to quickly regulate emotions and the second is the ability to self-heal emotions

The ability to quickly regulate emotions is emphasized The speed of processing emotions. Everyone has their own things and their own joys and sorrows. Life is really not easy. There is a saying on Weibo that nothing is easy in the adult world. If you find it easy, it is because someone is doing it for you. The phrase "bear your hardships" refers to the age in your teens and early twenties when you are protected by your family, teachers, and even friends. Therefore, you often regard some small things as big things that can make you emotionally collapse, and then you will die and live in trouble as if it is the next second. It’s the end of the world. To put it bluntly, it’s because you’ve experienced too little that you mistake an ant for an elephant and think you have a story.

It’s normal to have emotions. It’s also very important to learn to deal with emotions quickly. Important things

The ability of emotional self-healing

Everyone has emotions as an individual who exists and is independent of society. It's normal to talk to friends to vent, but everyone has their own things to do. Time flies too fast and is too precious. If you can, don't disturb them too much. Especially don't let your little emotions, grievances, or broken love seem to make everything worse. The world has abandoned you. You call your friends in the middle of the night to disturb others' rest. The other party refuses to answer the conversation and sends a message to Moments saying that when I need you, you won't be there anymore. It's too childish, too pretentious, too self-centered, and too ignorant

Many people can heal slowly by themselves if they can handle their emotions. He has many stories. Behind the calmness on his face is the accumulation of self-healing after each injury, not the encounter. It seems like the whole world will know about trivial matters

My phone will automatically go into Do Not Disturb mode from 11:30 to 6 o'clock. I don't like to disturb others too much with trivial matters, and neither will others. Use trivial things to disturb my precious time

Personal opinions written on a crowded subway

How many of the 6 manifestations of psychological maturity do you have?

Six manifestations of psychological maturity

1. Accept yourself, others and the world

Everyone is imperfect and has one way or another. problems and deficiencies. Mature people accept it calmlyAccepting one's own shortcomings does not deny oneself; immature and enthusiastic people cannot accept one's own shortcomings and are eager to deny oneself, thus leading to an imbalance of mentality. Mature people can not only accept their own shortcomings, but also accept the imperfections of others. When facing others, be more understanding and tolerant, and when facing the unsatisfactory life, be more calm.

2. Don’t pay too much attention to yourself

People have a characteristic. The more you pay attention to yourself, the easier it is for your mentality to become unbalanced. Mature people are not self-centered in life. Their eyes are more focused on various things other than themselves. Only by focusing on the overall situation can you use your ingenuity and do all kinds of things well.

3. Enjoy being alone

Mature people can enjoy the alone time in life and will not feel lonely because of one person. People who enjoy being alone have a strong sense of self-sufficiency and security, which allows them to stay calm and calm when life is at a low point; the only person who can truly accompany them for a long, long time is themselves.

4. Find a circle of friends that suits you

Mature people make friends selectively rather than just making friends. They will make friends who suit them. Even if some people have a small circle of friends, they are full of trust and friendship, and such relationships last longer. The law of attraction, what kind of person you are will attract what kind of people.

5. Strong realistic insight

A mature person must be a person who can skillfully control real life. They are able to deal with the important problems encountered in life calmly, have strong cognitive insights, and clearly know what real life is like. When a person has strong insight, he will not be troubled by superficial problems and will be more peaceful and calm in mind.

6. Open personality and sense of humor

Mature people are very tolerant of others and maintain a humble attitude. They pay more attention to the advantages and shining points of each person, and learn from them to improve themselves. Mature people usually have a sense of humor. Their humor is non-hostile, neither uplifting themselves nor derogatory to others. It is a kind of humor that makes those around them feel comfortable.

What are the specific manifestations of a person’s psychological maturity?

Be able to view yourself positively but objectively and realistically. Whether a person is psychologically mature or not depends on the degree of self-integration of a person. Simply put, it is how you view yourself. Psychologist Allport, G. W. (1961) once proposed that the primary criterion for a "mature person" is to be able to view oneself positively but objectively and realistically. "Relatively mature" people usually have these characteristics in their self-perception:

In general, they like themselves and think they are "cute".

Allow yourself to have flaws and understand them.

I am able to accept myself and am less likely to judge myself with words such as "bad, terrible".

Your understanding of yourself is relatively stable (there may be temporary and short-term fluctuations) and is unlikely to be affected by the outside world or others.

Understand and respect your true feelings and emotions.

Among them, the most important and difficult point is truth. The further we distance ourselves from our true selves, the more we deny our true emotions, and the more we cling to an idealized self-image, the more inner conflicts will arise. It reminds me of what Mr. Freud said: "These unrecognized emotions will not disappear, they will just be buried alive. Sooner or later, these emotions will emerge."

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Having the ability to establish intimate relationships. In addition to the relationship with oneself, another criterion for mental maturity is the relationship with others, that is, the ability to establish satisfactory intimate relationships. . Developmental psychology believes that only young people with a strong self-identity dare to take the risk of intimate relationships with others. Satisfaction has three dimensions of judgment indicators - whether the relationship is healthy, lasting, and deep. Yes, the kind of Neptune who keeps fish everywhere, changes partners frequently, or falls into sadomasochism and is unable to extricate himself, are not within the scope of this discussion. Some people think that maturity means not needing to rely on any relationship, but this is not the case. A "self-centered" mentality will prevent us from establishing intimacy with others. The book "The Great Me - The Psychology of Self-Development" proposes three obstacles:

Fear of not being accepted.

Fear of commitment.

Afraid of being changed.

When we overcome these obstacles and have the ability and willingness to make a commitment and establish a true intimate relationship, we are taking another step on the road to maturity.

Personal humble opinion (the three views do not match, I hope the masters from all walks of life will criticize me~):

1. Don’t say hard words and don’t do soft things.

2. Become so indifferent to everything. Become aware of what you want. Become a person who silently endures all the bad and good things.

3. Know others but don’t judge others, know the truth and don’t argue.

4. When it comes to oneself, a gentleman should be cautious about being alone. When it comes to people, don’t tell them when you see through them.

5. When you choose to keep something in your heart instead of preaching it everywhere, you grow up

6. Eat well, sleep well and exercise well

7. Consider the feelings of others and take care of the overall situation maturely and steadily. < /p>

9. See through, don’t speak out, and don’t be influenced by emotions

10. Maturity should be able to tolerate different voices and accept styles that are different from one’s own.

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